Saturday, February 15, 2014

Cottage Meeting Talk

Back in May 2013, one of the elders* in my ward asked me to speak for Cottage Meeting** if one of their speakers couldn't make it, which I said sure. When I wasn't needed that evening after all, they asked if I would speak another time, and I said sure. Finally, the day came.

January 12, 2014.
I finally got to speak for Cottage Meeting. So here is a link to the video of me giving my talk, and below is my original talk written out. Let's just say that sometimes what you plan on saying and what the Lord wants you to say can differ...
Happy reading/watching!


*Oftentimes when I refer to an elder or the elders, I am referring to a male missionary. When I refer to a sister, I am referring to a female missionary.
*Cottage Meeting is where converts to the Church, especially recent converts, are asked to share their story for missionaries and anybody interested in learning more about the Church. It's really fun. :)




My Cottage Meeting Talk
 
For those of you who don’t know me, my name is Alexis Milam, and I have been a member of the Church for about 9 ½ months now (baptized last year on March 17 and confirmed on March 31, which also happened to be Easter Sunday). I was invited to share with you tonight my conversion story. The easy way to explain what my conversion story is that I met the missionaries through friends who knew I was interested in their message, I went through both internal and social struggles to be baptized, and the restored gospel has completely changed my life.

                Let me be clear right now: becoming converted was not easy. As Elder Bednar put it about a year and a half ago, “A testimony is spiritual knowledge of truth obtained by the power of the Holy Ghost. Continuing conversion is constant devotion to the revealed truth we have received—with a heart that is willing and for righteous reasons” (“Converted unto the Lord,” October 2012 General Conference). In hindsight, I knew very early on that the Church was true—I gained that testimony quickly. It was a matter of accepting that truth—that willingness to be converted—that proved to be difficult.

Perhaps I should start at the beginning.

Before the Missionaries…


                Like many people I know, I grew up with a negative view of the Church. We don’t even need to discuss what I grew up hearing; essentially, I was led to believe that Mormons seemed kind of nice, but they were really these awful and twisted people. It’s enough to say that, when I made new friends at my new school and found myself wanting what they had, them being Mormons was the furthest thing from my mind, and finding out that they indeed were Mormons…I was in utter shock. All of a sudden, I wasn’t so sure that I wanted what they had.

                I had to strip away my pride and was deeply humbled as I became more accepting of the situation and accepted my desire to know more. Then it took courage to ask. I wound up using an extra-curricular theology project—the perfect thing to use as an excuse—to find out more, asking my best friend who is a member. A few church visits, a Book of Mormon, lots of prayers, and lots of discussions with member-friends later, I found that I had gained a strong testimony, and I found myself fully converted, ready to devote myself to the Lord and to His restored gospel.

“…and a brother is born for adversity.”[1]


                I was taught by 3 companionships, so 4 different missionaries. And what a blessing all four have been in my life. I truly believe that Heavenly Father hand-picked each missionary that taught me, whether it was going through the discussions before baptism or as a new member or both. Each one taught me something that no one else could in the same way. Each bore testimony, and their testimonies have strengthened mine. Their examples and encouragement have made more of a difference in my life than they probably realize. They really became some of my first brothers in the gospel.

                The first time I met the missionaries, all of us—the missionaries, the friends introducing me to them, and myself—we were all excited. One of them shook my hand very eagerly and exclaimed, “I’ve heard all about you!” Apparently they had been wanting to work with members more in finding people to teach, so they’d asked several times if anyone had friends interested in the Church. Well, one of my friends told them that she had a friend that was super interested, had already read through the Book of Mormon, and essentially shared with them my story. They immediately got excited and couldn’t wait to meet me!

                And that’s where one of the trials laid: how was I going to meet the missionaries when my family was so against me having anything to do with the Church? To put it simply, my parents didn’t want me involved at all. Once I had informed them that I wanted to join the Church and then asked to go to church with LDS friends a few weeks later, they said no, even though they had allowed me to visit before. This eventually became no church activities at all, but thankfully, I was able to go to activities a few times. And it was at one of these activities that I met the missionaries for the first time.

                I met with them once, basically for a bit of church Q&A. It was when I met with them at this time that they asked me how often I read scriptures. I admitted that I wasn’t consistent about it, but that I longed to be. They encouraged me to read the Book of Mormon—one chapter each day, which I wound up reading both that and the Bible daily—and that, if I did, my testimony would grow and my faith would increase. They were aware that I lacked support in my beliefs, but they also knew that everything that was to transpire would in due time, and that in the meantime I just needed to continue building my faith.

After that meeting I only saw them at activities because I wasn’t able to meet with them otherwise, but we kept in contact. They would ask how I was doing and if they could do anything for me. I kept them updated on my reading. A transfer took place.

Worth the Wait


And then miracles happened! Finally in early March of last year I surprised the missionaries by showing up at church for Fast Sunday. The first thing they asked was if I was going to get baptized (even though I’m sure they already knew that answer), and then we did something that I hardly hear of: we set a baptism date before we set a date for the first lesson! That week we went through all of the missionary discussions, another transfer took place, and then I got baptized on March 17! Two weeks later on Easter Sunday, I was confirmed a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. Those two days were two of the best days of my life! The peace and joy that I experienced on those days have never left for me. Yes, there are still hard days, but that’s life, and the Holy Ghost gives me comfort and strength to face those days.

After my baptism and confirmation, I went through the discussions again with the missionaries. What a blessing that was. We discussed deeper, and I continued to learn and grow more.

My baptism and confirmation definitely weren’t the end of my conversion; that was part of the beginning. As you keep learning and growing, there’s more opportunity to gain spiritual knowledge, and each day we must make the choice of whether or not to act upon that knowledge that we have.

The restored gospel has completely changed my life. Words can’t even describe the change. I love people more, I have more peace, I have more joy; and I have never been so passionate about anything in my life, as I am about the message of the LDS Church. I strive to share it now, and I can’t wait to share it in a larger capacity when I one day join the ranks with these missionaries as a missionary myself.

My Testimony


·         This gospel is true! If you read, pray, and ponder the scriptures for yourself, and if you have a genuine desire to know the truth, you will gain that knowledge!

·         Missionary work is important. It is hastening, and we must all be engaged in it, whether we are members or full-time missionaries.

·         God lives and loves us. We are His children and are precious to Him.

·         Miracles do happen! And God’s timing is perfect.

·         Anyone can change. Anyone can be a part of the restored gospel. We just must choose to be a part of it.

·         “I earnestly pray that your own search for truth will impress upon your heart the desire to come and join with us” (Dieter F. Uchtdorf. “Come, Join with Us,” October 2013 General Conference).



[1] Holy Bible, Proverbs 17:17

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